I brought the New Year in last night with my family and friends. I sat awake last night awaiting the moment that midnight would strike, leading us into the brand new beginning. Once midnight struck and the New Year was escorted in by fireworks and screams and kisses, I felt nothing but tired. After the excitement of 2011 ran dry, the fireworks died out, and the cold wind forced me inside, I just wanted to sleep. The only question I seemed to ask myself as I lay in my cousin’s bed preparing for the first dream of the New Year was this:
If you could look back and change anything about the past year, would you? What is that one mistake that you’ve made that you so wish you could have taken back? This question simmered in my mind so much that I wanted an answer that wasn’t mine. I sent a text message to my boyfriend asking what he thought, and his reply was this: “I would take back some things I’ve said to my friends and family that I didn’t mean, and I definitely would have avoided breaking my arm.” In the second I read that message, I realized that there is nothing that I would change. After I thought about the how I visited him in the hospital after he broke his arm, thus starting our relationship, every bad thing in life leads into something else. If you follow that bad event down the road far enough, some good comes out of it. It may a tiny nugget of good, but good nonetheless. Even if you only learn a lesson from the bad, like watching what you say to those you love, good comes out of it. See my point?
If you could look back and change anything about the past year, would you? What is that one mistake that you’ve made that you so wish you could have taken back? This question simmered in my mind so much that I wanted an answer that wasn’t mine. I sent a text message to my boyfriend asking what he thought, and his reply was this: “I would take back some things I’ve said to my friends and family that I didn’t mean, and I definitely would have avoided breaking my arm.” In the second I read that message, I realized that there is nothing that I would change. After I thought about the how I visited him in the hospital after he broke his arm, thus starting our relationship, every bad thing in life leads into something else. If you follow that bad event down the road far enough, some good comes out of it. It may a tiny nugget of good, but good nonetheless. Even if you only learn a lesson from the bad, like watching what you say to those you love, good comes out of it. See my point?
Through this question I sat, thinking about anything I would change. I considered the things I’ve learned through these ‘mistakes’. Is it really a mistake if you learn something from it? I don’t think so. Regrets happen; everyone will have a few of them because we, as humans, aren’t perfect by any means. But to dwell on those regrets is very unprogressive. How do you expect to grow if you can’t let go of the past? You can’t; you won’t. Don’t dwell on what you can’t change; learn from it, and move on. Just keep moving. Just keep on looking for those nuggets of good through the coal. Even diamonds start out as coal; so embrace your mistakes as a chance to learn. It may be an incredibly difficult thing to learn how to do, but once you make it a habit out of finding the diamond in the rough, life will be more positive.
A short post, this is. Some things don’t take many words to make an impact. Sometimes, a bunch of words can be summed up, and sometimes you must let all 500 words speak for themselves. Regrets are natural, no matter how big of a waste of time. Move on; don’t dwell on what you can’t change. All of these points have been mentioned already, but are extremely important points.
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